Are you someone that falls in love too fast?
You know when you meet someone new, whether it’s through a friend, or on one of those dating apps or even at a bar… and you think they’re the one for you. But, how can you ever be so sure that they’re the one?
You might think so because of the way your conversations flow, the chemistry you have and you both have the same likes and dislikes. You see each other almost every single day and you can’t seem to live without them. You miss them when they’re not around. You constantly want to talk to them whether it’s through texting, calling or FaceTiming.
They tell you how special you are and tell you things that no one has ever said to you before (good, heart touching things obviously). They find every weird/goofy thing you do or say to be very cute. You think you found the one.
Everything just seems perfect.
But then that same ‘everything’ just changes in a flash. You see them roaming around with someone else holding hands OR they tell you straight that they don’t want to see you again. There goes your heart…
What’s So Wrong With Falling In Love So Fast?
It really feels amazing to fall in love but why fall in love with someone who won’t be there to catch you? It takes time for everything. You need time to get to know each other first. I know sometimes it’s easier said than done but you need to ask yourself what if in the end this person isn’t who you think they are. What if they’re not worth it? Now, I’m not saying that you shouldn’t fall in love AT ALL. But, what I am saying is don’t fall in love with someone that isn’t ready to love you back. Don’t just give away your heart like that, you need to let that person earn it.
Everything takes time. Remember, you can’t expect a nice beautiful flower to grow instantly right after you plant a seed. It takes time. Same goes for relationships. Relationships involve a purpose, a commitment, and comes with responsibility.
I have a friend who fell in love with a girl way too quickly. They met through LinkedIn (which I think is a little weird since that’s not really a dating site, oh well) They talked for a bit and added each other on other social media platforms. Then, they finally agreed to meet in person. And that is when he fell for her. All it took was just ONE date for him to fall in love with her.
What was so special about her you might be wondering.
Well, for starters, they both liked the same music and they both complained about how much they hate their job.
They only went on one date. They still talked to each other on Snapchat, Whatsapp and Instagram. But things started to go downhill for them. They started to flop on each other every time they made plans to meet. My friend literally poured his heart out to her by showing his emotions, feelings, and wanted a lot of attention from her (sounds a little clingy, doesn’t it?)
A few months later, they would barely talk to each other. She would only message him when she felt lonely and needed someone to vent to. She started to completely ignore him on Snapchat and Whatsapp. But this guy was not about giving up that easily. He would constantly send her plenty of snaps every day in hopes of getting a snap from her in return. But nothing happened. It seemed to me that she had moved on and that is what I told him. He still didn’t want to give up and he wouldn’t listen to anyone’s advice. He kept trying to talk to her and would even go to a mall near her house in hopes of seeing her there (a little creepy if you ask me).
Enough was enough. The girl he fell in love with, finally told him to back off after 6 months of him trying so hard making her fall in love with him. She ended up blocking him from everywhere. He was devastated. Heartbroken. Torn into pieces. He started talking about harming himself. He wasn’t thinking right as his mind wasn’t in the right place. He would only listen to sad songs and be alone all the time (something you’d see in a Bollywood movie).
Sooner or later, he found out that he fell in love way too quick. He should’ve waited and taken his time to get to know her first. (Which is what everyone told him from the start)
Moral of the story?
Don’t fall in love too fast. Get to know one another first because it’s for your own benefit. Let time do its thing.